Monday, December 29, 2014

Fear and Special Needs

In my newest video, I talk about the fear that parents feel when they discover that their child has special needs.  I decided to make this video after reading an article about an Australian couple whose child would have been born with a cleft hand.  They decided to have an abortion when the mother was 28 weeks pregnant.  As the mother of several special needs children, I understand the fear they were feeling (boy have I felt it myself!)

But it's my hope that we stop viewing people with special needs as only their need.  When we look at someone and only see their need, of course it's scary.  But when we look at people as individuals, whose needs are only a small part of who they are, the fear that we will not be able to handle parenting them, and the fear that their lives will be so difficult that they are not worth living, dissipates.


The next video will be writing related! I promise!

Monday, December 22, 2014

Adoption and Christmas


We adopted my youngest son, Jonathan, this past April so this is his first Christmas.  As with many adopted kids, big holidays bring out big emotions.  Last week, Jonathan's school had a Christmas shop.  The kids brought in money and bought presents for their family.  When I explained to Jonathan that he had to use the money to buy presents for other people (and not himself) he got very upset.  So I took the opportunity to talk about an adoption issue that a lot of us face as the holidays approach.

I don't have any quick fixes, but I do have a few things that we do on a daily basis that slowly help our kids.

Friday, December 19, 2014

Starting a video series.


Unveiling my new video series!  For a long time, I've been wanting to talk about both the craft of writing and issues in adoption, but I couldn't figure out a way to do it effectively. Enter YouTube!  

Videos will be posted on Mondays.  My plan is to alternate between adoption videos and writing videos, but that may change.  

Feel free to comment or send me suggestions for topics.  

Monday, December 8, 2014

Feeling Grateful and Thoughtful

First off, I want to say, "Thank you."

If you follow me on Facebook, you know that the past two days have been a little rough.  Okay, make that very rough.  My daughter, Grace, had a large seizure Sunday morning and had to be rushed to the hospital by ambulance.  She was then transferred to Cincinnati Children's where we stayed overnight.  We finally got home tonight at around 9pm.

I want to say, "Thank you" because as soon as I posted a request for prayers for Grace, you all started responding.  I feel so lucky to know each of you.  And I want you to know how much the texts, and phone calls, and Facebook posts mean to me.  We had family members helping out with the other kids at home and so many offers of help.  It's truly humbling to know you all.  S
o Thank You.  I'm grateful for each and every one of you.

Grace is okay and happy to be home.  (So am I!)  But her seizures seem to be getting worse.  When they started, they were small "staring spell" seizures that only lasted a few seconds.  This one lasted over an hour and didn't even stop when I gave her Diastat (Valium to stop seizures).  Right now, we're just keeping an eye on things, but of course I worry.  She's had other large seizures before, but this one really knocked her for a loop.  She's still not completely herself.

Add that to the fact that I was in the ER on Thursday (yep, a Crohn's flare--I'm ok too, just bad timing), and it has me thinking.  I don't know about you all, but it feels like my life is rushing past me.  I feel like I'm running at 6 rpms all of the time.  I need to slow down.  Not because anything is wrong physically (the ER trip is par for the course with Crohn's disease), but because I think I'm running so fast that I'm not enjoying life the way I want too.

I've been feeling this way for a long time, in fact I was talking to Steve about it on Saturday, and I don't have any answers yet.  But I do know I'm going to deliberately try to slow down and enjoy where I'm at right now because life passes too quickly.

I'll keep you posted on my progress.  Hopefully, it won't be too painful to slow down!

(Okay, so perhaps it wasn't the best idea to write a blog post about slowing down at 10:30 at night when I just get home from the hospital with my daughter!  The slowing down thing will start tomorrow!)